Steve Rogers/Thor/Tony Stark Rated: M Fluff, Threesome, Friends With Benefits, Mentions of Sex Summary: Steve smiled and rested his head again, feeling warm and pleased to just quietly watch the two of them sleep, both looking content and totally at ease.
Eeee, this is SO GREAT, thank you so much. <3 I love it—it’s absolutely perfect. Seriously, everyone, read this. It’s exactly the threesome fic I’ve been wanting for these two, despite not being explicit. <3 Perfect. EEEE.
“"White feminism" does not mean every white woman, everywhere, who happens to identify as feminist. It also doesn’t mean that every "white feminist" identifies as white. I see "white feminism" as a specific set of single-issue, non-intersectional, superficial feminist practices. It is the feminism we understand as mainstream; the feminism obsessed with body hair, and high heels and makeup, and changing your married name. It is the feminism you probably first learned. "White feminism" is the feminism that doesn’t understand western privilege, or cultural context. It is the feminism that doesn’t consider race as a factor in the struggle for equality.
White feminism is a set of beliefs that allows for the exclusion of issues that specifically affect women of colour. It is “one size-fits all” feminism, where middle class white women are the mould that others must fit. It is a method of practicing feminism, not an indictment of every individual white feminist, everywhere, always.”—
One of the most helpful things I’ve heard as advice for people with privilege when it comes to discussions like these is: “If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it.”
In other words, if you try to be an ally and you’re a white feminist, or male, or a straight person, et al, and you see people complaining about oppressive practices of white feminists or men or straight people et al., and you feel the urge to say “Hey, we’re not all like that, I don’t do those things, what about us allies, what about me” …don’t. If you hear ‘White feminists don’t care about women of color,” and you’re white and a feminist and you care about women of color— then you’re not who they’re talking about when they say “white feminists.” If it’s not about you, don’t make it about you.
If someone is talking about people who behave differently from you, then they’re not talking about you, so you don’t need to get defensive. If that shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it. Don’t take it personally when it’s pointed out that lots of people similar to you wear that shoe. Don’t seek praise for not wearing the shoe, or start whining that hey, don’t generalize, not all XYZ people wear oppressive shoes. Or like Dorothy’s ruby slippers in the Wizard of Oz, they might magically appear on your feet.